Education Guide

I: – Let’s take a bath, Gabriel, you do not want to go play at school?
He – no, I’m Binca here at home.

Interesting interviews I’ve done this week and barely had time to write. The subjects are varied, but one aspect is recurrent and impressed me greatly: how the mother is essential in the early years of the baby. Basically, children need the mother!

Parents increasingly participatory, congratulations, keep always improving, but you are even in the background. I think the best they can do is make room for women to be mothers.

And they need to be quiet to lick the calf … Therefore, men must continue changing diapers, bathing and bottle, of course, but mainly need to clean the house, put the garbage, go to the supermarket and do all the boring shopping, paying bills … I know there is so much to do! For the successful development of our children, women need to be spared this routine overwhelming!

I have much fear of being devoured by feminists Shiites. I’m afraid to look backward and conservative. But after much fight for our right to work, I think we need to fight for our right to motherhood.

Increasingly, I think we are overloaded and the latest craze is to blame mothers for their children bad habits. In addition to unfold to account for it, you must be gentle, understanding, loving, joyful … Always alert, carry the world on the back with a sweet smile on her lips.

I think I can tell exactly because I am in a privileged position, working from home, able to adapt my routine professional needs Gabriel. I even surprised myself with my patience, my calm …

But I’m not free of internal billing for giving me that luxury. It is a conflict damned to live with the ghost of me being devalued as a woman. That is, mothers are key to creating healthy and productive, they are called all the time to do so … however, this task has no social value. It is hard to support that choice and I live myself giving explanations.

I think it is not difficult, it is impossible to offer this quiet little life, full of care, in theory, children this age need, and work all day, taking care of own needs, manage the house and marriage. If life is troubled parents, children can not afford to be left out.

And this routine is already heavy for those who “only” manages the house, if I were given a laundry tub to wash over the weekend, my patience would go to space! Managing it is too: up to a fruit reach the mouth of the child, must be purchased, placed in the fruit until it matures, to be cleaned, peeled and cut. Then she will smear even the entire hair and leave a trail of dirt, the floor of the chair to “someone” clean.

Today, I spoke at the school and explain why Gabriel is coming at a time each day. The entrance to it is 9 hours. I hope he wakes up, drank coffee calmly, he does poop, take a bath and leave the house without concern for time. I think he is tiny, yet need not be a slave to the clock.

It was past nine, said, “Let’s take a bath, Gabriel, you do not want to go play at school? He replied: “No, I’m Binca here at home.” I gave a laugh and let him to play some more.

And if it was 7 o’clock in the morning, I had hard time to get into the job, worried, thinking that the traffic increases every minute, how could I laugh? It’s easy to respect the child’s pace when you’re not pressed for a lot of things to do. And that thinking of a middle class life, imagine if it were coming out of a crowded bus to leave the child in public kindergarten!

In conversation with the coordinator of the school, she ended up telling that child that has come in my pajamas because I did not take at all and the mother was already late. And it is anyway!

The little ones are rolling in every way: take to drink milk, ask for another slice of bread, do not want to leave the bathroom, escape every piece of clothing, the shoes take a walk before we can put the other, will picking up toys and urge everyone to take to school … and the clock running … Then you release the elevator door to run after him and, of course, the elevator goes away … and the clock running …