Education Guide

Infantile sexuality is a very difficult topic for parents, grandparents, teachers and others directly involved in the education of children. Sexuality, in fact, is still mysterious and difficult to be lived healthily for many adults, men and women made references to taboos that lasted for centuries.

Therefore, we must be careful not to leave this legacy for our children. It is a challenge to offer children the possibility of a sex life more comfortable and enjoyable than that of generations who fought for sexual freedom, but they could not live it that in the fullness desired.

I talked to the psychologist Bortolozzo Ana Claudia Maia, a professor at Unesp Bauru, sexuality in children with disabilities, as this is her specialty. Author of “Sexuality and Disability”, the psychologist explained how similar the development of sexuality in children with and without disabilities and noted the position as educators of adults responsible for the difference in the manifestation of the sexual behaviors of children and adolescents. In general, the difference arises because children with disabilities are not taught to live socially sexuality, so often seem exaggerated and drawbacks in its manifestations.

But I will address this issue in detail later. For today, I separated the excerpt from the interview in which Ana Claudia Bortolozzo speaks of sexuality in all children with and without disabilities. She said the baby is born with sexuality, but sexual behaviors begin to appear around age two, when the child begins to discover his body.

Generally, it is then that the child also begins to be taught to use the bathroom and into the process of sphincter control. Free diapers, she has more access to their own body and can reach more genitalia.

It is well that begins masturbation child, the child can feel, see what feels good and does it again, again, again … She said the height of infantile masturbation occurs at about five years.

The psychologist explains how a seemingly small detail can make a difference in the sexual education of children. Instead of the automatic “take your hand there,” parents should talk “here now or is no place to put your hand there.” It may look the same, but it is not.

The important thing is to show the child the desire to feel that natural is yummy, but it is not the time to do either in front of everyone. Children only need to be guided to live sexuality socially. A process that will be developed along with it until puberty and adolescence.

In the interview, the ease with which we must face the infantile sexuality is clear in the very way of talking about Ana Claudia Bortolozzo.

Bortolozzo Ana Claudia Maia has a doctorate in psychology, a professor at Unesp Bauru, author of “Sexuality and Disability”, published by Editora Unesp.