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The famous tea cloths, diapers, pillows, pets, dolls, any of these objects grimy children insist on taking to get back and forth, and rubbing the little face, nose, arm, or anywhere else, are absolutely healthy emotional point of view, according to child psychologist and psychoanalyst Silvana Rabello.

Called transitional objects, they are used by children to alleviate the anguish of being away from mother, when the natural mixture between mother and son of the first month of life begins to be broken inside. This is an important stage of development and some children require a greater aid in this period.

Children live clinging to objects that have chosen to represent the mother while doing psychic elaborations to handle the removal. “Some kids start having their transitional objects. The flank steak, a blow job are those things that they need control for God’s sake! It does not take me. She needs to have control over something. It’s the classic diapers, dirty, that the child has a tantrum is gone, wash. It is a teddy bear, is something that is a subject very close, “he said.

Silvana Rabello said the child uses the object to do whatever he wanted to do with the mother. If I could, put the mother under his arm and carry it to any corner, not to drop any more, or to go to sleep or bathe.

“Then, as the child will lose this control until the mother is very interesting, very healthy, the child go electing some objects that they saw a stick and with it begins to play, play even send away. Playing in the trash, take back, to fight, “he said.

According to the psychoanalyst, in doing so, the child begins to transfer a bit of trouble for these objects, living things a bit more controlled by it. To organize mentally can not control her mother, she needs some time to learn to deal with it. It is common that development generates enough anxiety.