Education Guide

When the Mother Papo invited me to write a statement about the show’s theme “Mother at 40,” I was very happy because this issue has my face. I am not an example of women who postponed motherhood to take care before life. Quite the contrary: I was her first child at age 19, with 23, had two girls, and at 44, I had my little one, who is two years and four months.

Two new lives: his and mine!

This mature motherhood has been the greatest charm of being a woman. More than being a mother again, I’m experiencing the feeling of winning a new life as a gift. It is as if it had resumed, and in a way so different, so beautiful, so colorful! … I often say that I reopened. I created a blog to talk more than animates and gives inspiration to my life: child, children!

After realizing the dream of being a mother, educating and caring for two daughters much loved in the midst of internal conflicts of youth to the insecurities of the discovery of motherhood, the question of career choice, the difficulties and challenges of early stage, the frustrations of a bad marriage and divorce a liberating relief, the personal and legal battles with ex-husband and father absent and immature, the revelation of the disturbances caused by the wounds that I carry from childhood and the recognition of my own limitations as a human being and as a mother , Gabriel is an award, a medal of honor.

For all that I have had since the discovery of the first pregnancy, at 18 years of age, do not deserve a gold medal or silver or bronze, it was not the best mother in the world and I was not among the best, but I’m sure was and am a good mother. My children are without a doubt, what is most amazing in my bio.

With my nature, my family history, brands and my life would not give to do more than I do with them. But after so many years of motherhood, have become more aware of my possibilities and resources to address the fears and difficulties, which are many, this infinite task of being a mother.

Motherhood was my dream girl. According to my mother, when asked what I would be when he grew up, unlike the girls who answered teacher, medical, or many other professions, I say, mother!

And it was this desire that gave me courage to try to start all over again. Married to a man 13 years younger than me and no children, I decided to take on this adventure, as told in one of the first posts on my blog: Pregnancy after 40: a sweet and risky venture

We wanted a lot and he is there, with two years and four months, giving a very special meaning to our life together that is difficult to explain.

I can not say that Claudio is the father who dreamed for my kids, because even in dreams could have imagined such a wonderful father. I realize every day that the quality of the couple’s relationship and the maturity of the father and mother are very good child development. And I am rewarded for trying as it is good to have a healthy family.

I do not think I am a better mother than I was for my daughters. I do not like this thing better or worse, I’m more mature, I am more prepared for motherhood. And do not think it’s just because of my 46 years of age. It would not be the same if Gabriel was my first child.

I think I learned a lot, matured with the experience of other girls’ mother. It’s from my mistakes and my successes I guzzled that late motherhood. It was to address issues of mother who discovered and fell in love with psychoanalysis, therapy and refer the discovery of new ways to deal with old and new problems, which makes a big difference!

I like to joke that Gabriel wins until the quality of nutrition, it has a mother who makes food for grandmother. I wanted to have my head on my body 46 20. I have more understanding and attentive eyes, the mouth more calibrated to speak with authority and gentleness at the same time, but my column! …

Physically, according to my gynecologist and obstetrician, the woman has the best conditions for getting pregnant at age 25, this is the pinnacle. But honestly, being a mother is much more comfortable forties.

Not only is the maturity in order to mature person. In my case, at this age, even the interests are more compatible with the demands that the education of a child.

A mother may be 20 years to mature and let go to a party to take the sick child to hospital. But a losing party is much easier for a woman of 40 years than for a 20. I do not think simply play all the human and social roles of a 21st century woman at any age, but what is difficult for a woman of 40 is much more to a 20.

Although more tired, I feel that at 46 I am more available for motherhood. I do not think you need to prove anything to anyone, I have no professional future when I have threatened to choose between taking care of my child with fever or work. It is a stage where life is more balanced between what I want and be who I am.

For me, maturity is not only more comfortable to be a mother is to live. It may seem more daunting, more boring, but it is much more comfortable. Wisdom to appreciate the patience, tolerance, flexibility, features so important to care for a child, comes only with time. I just get a reasonable dose after a long time!

He loved to be roasting in the sun, sprawled in a chair. Now, I prefer the shade. He loved a program stretched to five in the morning. Now, even two is fine, and only once in a while. A movie to arrive at midnight, before turning pumpkin, even better!

I’ve been having so much fun the city’s parks, I love children’s theater, but no need for all this: a banana peel and see Gabriel find it a bridge when the tips on your side dish with plastic and passes below the little finger, is the best program in the world!