Education Guide

Today, I will follow this series with a psychologist and psychoanalyst Rubens Maciel key talking points for the emotional development of a person. After all, the last day of information lead us to think, that parents are creating for our grandchildren? The cycle of life is amazing!

In my particular case, I can also think, with the father I had, until I’m healthy too. More than authoritarian, a tyrant! And psychoanalysis gives you …

I will begin and end with a sentence of psychoanalyst reassuring and disturbing at the same time: “The land that you should prepare to plant is in early childhood. And throughout the life course, you’ll be making, learning from experience. Now, a person who has had problems in early childhood will learn much less, much less fit in life, than he who did not. ”

Before explaining the factors present in the formation of one’s personality, psychologist and psychoanalyst Rubens Maciel was keen to stress: for psychoanalysis, a person can not be evaluated considering a direct cause and effect. That is, there is this: does this, what gives.

According to Rubens Maciel, “to the emotional development of one there are some features that are important, among many others that we do not know.” He called three of them as vital: family history, nature and history of the child’s life.

The analyst explained that the issue of family is very important in shaping the character. According to him, loving parents give the child the certainty of being loved and this enables him to believe that the world wants. “It sets itself a confidence that is loved the way it is, and that the world gets well. It is a very different attitude that says I am loved and I have to be a good boy to be loved, “he said.

The little loving relationships between parents and children generate much anxiety in children. And the systematic collection of a father immature, unable to understand and accept the child with their capabilities and limitations compromise the spontaneity of being in development. “The child is about to fulfill the wishes of those parents who are often unworkable because it is a chronic dissatisfaction of his father. So she tries, tries, but never okay, “he said.

Another vital issue for the formation of personality is the nature of the child. According to Rubens Maciel, children are destructive and constructive. They are born with a trait that interferes with the person’s personality. The most welcome constructive things that receive and retain within itself. The most destructive are unable or very difficult to receive and preserve them in what they receive.

According to the psychoanalyst, the child of the constructive nature works like this: “Mommy come here, suck me, then she likes me.” And so destructive: “Mom came here, gave suck, but first gave to my brother, and she gave too little, she wanted to stay here anymore.”

“You take two children, twins to the same treatment, one is never satisfied, always moaning, crying, angry. And the other not, be at peace, and quiet. In a good family, a destructive child can still have some good things and preserve. If it is destructive and the family is poor, the prognosis is very unfavorable, “he said.

And the third factor that influences the development of personality is the story of a person’s life. Some traumas have a negative influence. “You can be constructive, have had a good family, but suddenly lost his parents in an accident. Then go to an orphanage, is harassed because he is black or is Japanese, because for whatever. These are the traumas of life, “he said.

Rubens Maciel said that some factors can be barriers to emotional development. In some people, some aspects are able to halt the development, which would explain a person of 40 years with emotional age of 15.

The analyst explained that the first years of life are critical, but nobody is ready and finished at five, six years old. “The land that you should prepare to plant is in early childhood. And throughout the life course, you’ll be making, learning from experience. Now, a person who has had problems in early childhood will learn much less, much less fit in life, than he who did not, “he said.