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Gone are the days when her grandmother’s house was right address for a summer vacation. The current generation of parents are bewildered looking for alternatives to make children happy and well cared for and believe that they are in school during the rest of the year. Good times?

Talking to the psychotherapist Marcia Ferreira, agreed that sometimes society is longing for a family model that does not want, so that rejected and changed. The entry of women, mothers and grandmothers, the labor market is only one factor of the current reality, is not the only one to determine the new family dynamics, in which the school now has an important role.

Critical to the nostalgia of the mother as the only reference in the creation of the child, she believes that opening up space for others to participate in child care is good for its development. “It’s the price we paid, it pays to feel less secure but more challenging,” he said.

According to the psychoanalyst, children need a network of care and the school can not account for the needs of the contemporary family. And the emotional issues involved in the choice of parents to organize their lives with their children should not be analyzed only from the psychological point of view, but also the social.

The preschools tend to close down in mid-December to resume them after 30 days, with summer courses offered to students by an extra payment for the period. Well in the confusion of late years, not paying!

I think when parents are able to schedule vacation for the period of school closure, many disorders are avoided. But life can keep in tune with the school calendar is not easy. In many activities, this is just the most troubled period, when more people are required and can not leave at all.

For many families, the worst month of traffic and commitments to social gatherings that pop on all sides adds to the most agonizing question: Who let the kids? And the situation may be even more difficult for those who need to take vacation for the maid or the nanny in this period.

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For the psychoanalyst, there is no way ideal. When the family has the privilege of having friends or relatives, people who already have a connection with the child care to share in this period, the situation is more comfortable. However, in the absence of this possibility when it is subjected to some improvisation to replace the school holidays, children will learn what life is like.

She said the impact of this experience depends on how much support the mother leave her child in these conditions. It is important that it is safe in relation to the solution, because the child feels insecure to realize the anguish of the mother to leave her. “The distraught mother conveys to the child that she is not in a good situation,” he said.

For me, it is difficult to understand how a young child can be fine all day with strangers or in places with which they are accustomed. I have not yet adapted to the novelty of the nanny folguista and I find it strange to leave the children in schools that function as a small hotel.

In the evaluation of Marcia Ferreira, relationships with strangers can be a difficult experience, but structuring the child. Since it is an alternative that has the trust of parents, the child learns that includes periods of absence and presence of the mother and can develop the ability to collaborate with the world. “It will be a more articulate person, which today is very important,” he joked.

The analyst considers interesting to explain what is happening, even for the little ones. Talking helps the mother to be present and teaching others to go to become a reference. As the child needs the warmth, just coming and being interested in what the new environment provides. To feel accompanied, according to the psychotherapist, a child must have confidence that an adult is caring for her.